I didn’t know if I had another babble on personality tests in me. I had thought I said everything that I thought on personality tests in my first babble but I didn’t talk about the Enneagram and would like to rectify it. So here goes…
- Anchor verse for the Enneagram series:
- First Week on the Enneagram
- Second Week of the Enneagram: focusing on numbers 2, 3, 4
- Third Week of the Enneagram: focusing on numbers 1, 8, 9
- Fives, Sixes, and Sevens
- To clarify:
- Tying it all together
- Final thoughts:
Small disclaimer: I am in no way a psychology expert nor am I a pastor. This post hatched because of a series my small group did on the Enneagram and I’d like to share my notes and explain how the Enneagram doesn’t necessarily go against what I said in the first babble. Also, if you are not religious or not of the Christian faith, know you are welcome here. Don’t know the Enneagram? Click here.
Anchor verse for the Enneagram series:
He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'”Luke 10:27
The above verse is essentially the core of Christianity. We are to love others as we love ourselves, but sometimes we don’t, or we forget to love ourselves.
First Week on the Enneagram
- A relationship with Jesus
- Learning through the Spirit to love yourself, others, and God
- Only God can teach us to love ourselves
Life is beautifully relational, yet deeply personal. We can live life with others and yet feel alone and there are things we can only experience aloneAlex Beaverson
Suffice to say, no one will be like you.
- Ps 8: 3-4
- Hebrews 2:16-17
Jesus understands the human experience, he was human after all. He doesn’t care about uniformity but unity.
The enneagram is all about core motivations and fears. There are nine numbers of personalities. In stress and health, you can act like other numbers and the goal is to be a healthy version of your number.
Second Week of the Enneagram: focusing on numbers 2, 3, 4
The soul, heart, and mind are all non-physical. We are to love God with all that we have but here’s the thing:
You already have everything God wants you to give.Landon Macdonald
8’s, 9’s, and 1’s find it easiest to love God with all their strength, 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s find it easiest to love God with all their heart, 5’s, 6’s, and 7’s find it easiest to love God with all their minds. For 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s shame is what they struggle with. Shame is the weapon of the Pharisee, the opposite of the gospel. It tells you people won’t love you any more if you bring things to light.
For the twos…
What you need to know:
Everyone is going to do their own thing, it’s ok to set boundaries and let others fail. In a bible setting there’s a difference between burdens and loads. Galatians 6:2 talks about carrying each other’s burdens. Burdens are things that happen outside of your control, like the death of a pet. Loads, on the other hand, are things that happen because you made a bad decision, like the consequences of cheating on a test or gossiping behind someone’s back. It takes wisdom to know the difference and courage to follow through.
Loving a two:
Don’t take advantage of them. Just don’t.
What you need to know:
You are the best at reading others and helping others through emotions. However, when you are unhealthy, you hurt others.
Loving a three:
Call out their successes and celebrate them.
For the fours…
What you need to know:
Four’s are idealists. You can see how the world could be in spite of the way that it is. However, that means you may be delusional. I think of Orpheus from the hit musical, Hadestown.
Loving a four:
Help them achieve the things they want.
Third Week of the Enneagram: focusing on numbers 1, 8, 9
If 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s struggle with shame, 1’s, 8’s, and 9’s struggle with anger. We all need to develop a healthy relationship with our dissatisfactions.
For the eights:
Y’all are the challengers. You externalize anger and it can escalate situations because their anger seems emotionally extreme. They can be aggressive, having a direct style, and love conflict. They need to learn to control their energy.
To the nines:
Y’all are the peacemakers who suppress anger, and angry with yourselves. You are usually stable and avoid anger in conflict. However you can be out of touch with your anger which is scary and can “go along to get along”.
For my fellow ones:
We are the perfectionist who internalize anger, and angry with the world. Loyal, responsible, and a hard worker but sometimes “just frustrated”. Although we may know we are angry, we feel we need the world to be perfect to cope and may mask our frustrations. Sometimes, we may not be aware that–even if we mask our frustrations–how it will come across it’s obvious to others when we are frustrated. We can also be passive aggressive.
A note on anger for all Enneagram types
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does no produce the righteousness that God desires.James 1:19-20
“Human anger” is different from God so that begs the question, “God, what are you angry about?”.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.John 1:1-5
So what did God say in the beginning? As you read through Genesis 1, God saw all He had made and said it was very good eight times.
Then the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.Genesis 2:7
What can we gather from this?
God spoke the world into existence. When God says something, He means it and his word brings life.
Your job in navigating your dissatisfaction comes from the inside. The help you need comes from within. The Jesus that is within us is slow to angerAlex Beaverson
How can I do this?
The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.Ps 103: 8
If you feel that God is angry with you, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. You are loved.
Fives, Sixes, and Sevens
I am so sorry, I don’t have notes for the week that they covered your numbers but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a word for you. Much like the gut triad struggles the most with anger and the heart triad struggles with shame the head triad struggles with fear.
For the fives:
Y’all are the investigators, who have the internalized fear of not being good enough. You are inherently observant and knowledgeable. Based on my research, it seems that if you don’t feel adequate in relationships, work, etc. you choose to retreat into your own world. My encouragement for you is to be bold, and share your observations because when you do so, you can revolutionize the world because you notice what most do not. You bring to your relationships and your work your expertise and a great level of understanding and insight.
To the sixes:
Y’all are the loyalists, who fears being alone because alone equates to a lack of security and support. As your name implies, you are loyal to a fault, reliable, and trustworthy. Based on my research it seems that if you don’t feel secure, you can put your loyalty in the wrong people at best and make your own securities in self destructive behaviors at worst. My encouragement for you is to know and believe you are loved and cared for by God and you can place your trust in Him for He is faithful. The truth is we are not guaranteed security on Earth.
I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.John 16:33
This verse came to me as I was writing this section so I encourage the sixes who read this to meditate on it. <3
For the sevens:
Y’all are the enthusiast and fear missing out. You are fun, joyous, and outgoing. A seven I have talked to admits they use fun activities to avoid their problems. My encouragement for you is to know and believe that constant thrill-seeking will not fulfill you, that the joy and satisfaction you are seeking can only come from God and His plans for our lives exceed the expectations any of us could imagine.
A note on fear for all Enneagram types
for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power, love, and self-control.2 Tim 1:7
If you are a Christian, the Holy Spirit dwells within you. The holy spirit within you empowers you with power, love, and self-control. Much like with anger, it is God who does the changing and we who do the accepting. You do not need to fear, for you are loved and taken care of. Your identity and security need not come from the world but from the one who made the world and carefully pieced you together in your mother’s womb.
When my notes said that certain numbers struggle with fear, shame, and anger, that isn’t to say you can’t struggle with those things if you aren’t that number. When talking with others, I found it was a good indicator of what they struggled with most. Especially if they were in between two numbers.
Tying it all together
In my previous babble on personality tests, I said I liked Clifton Strengths better than all personality tests. When covering the series, Clifton Strengths and Enneagram were posed as opposing tests with Enneagram coming out on top. After my experiences with both, I no longer see them as opposing tests. Each answers a different question. The Enneagram answers the questions of why. “Why do I do this in this way? Why do I feel this way?” Clifton Strengths answers the question of how. “How do I do what I do so well?” If you as a person are a “what”, I feel the “how” and “why” were made to point you to a “who”. A who that can point you in what direction (where) He wants you to go. I do not claim to have all the answers, I have yet to figure out what purpose He has in store for me, but I have hope. I know things do no move in my timing and believe that He works for my good. So I keep working, excited to discover what He has in store.
If you hear nothing else…
You are not an accident or a fluke of nature. You are here on purpose because you were made with purpose, for a purpose. If that is all you get out of this, praise God. Loved and known truly, immensely, and deeply is you and you are not alone.
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